Thanks for your post, I honestly feel like I'm losing it and most people seem to not even want to ackowledge the possibility of cheating, feels like I'm getting gaslighted it sucks.

She met with her ex "for coffee" 6-8 weeks before first symptoms, and as for her questioning me about cheating she didn't at all, just thanked me for believing her at the time (I didn't know she'd met with her ex then and trusted her completely) and just believed me immediately when I said I hadn't cheated.

On the other hand she is a massage therapist (the serious kind, not the happy ending kind), so that's a possilibity I guess, but to me it still doesn't explain why we got the kind that sticks to your genitals only. It's been 5 months now and it would've definitely spread to other parts of our bodies, it's not like we wash our hands 24/7.

It just looks terrible, but of course there's no proof and she swears on everything she never cheated on me. It's driving me crazy.