Mom ruined birthday surprise friends planned for me

I don’t even know what to say. My mother called after she got off work today to tell me how I have a horrible attitude and personality and I need to check myself because she’s turned off by me. She frequently mentions how I disgust her and no one wants to or will want to be around me. I ruined her mood today and she was calling “to be nice” and invite me to the mall for a birthday outfit… all I said when I picked up was hello. She said wyd. I said nothing. She said what did you do today. I said nothing… she said she can’t stand my presence or entitled attitude. I don’t even know what to do. It’s like if I stay quiet it’s a problem, if I argue it’s a problem. I literally can’t win. I’m so tempted to move in with my father but I know that would cause hell for me

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