Money problems and hiding physical attributes from a potential SO.

I have three small cavities on the front of my teeth (three different teeth) They're usually not noticeable unless you are standing within 2-3 feet of my face. that I slowly got over the course of three years going without dental insurance. Now that I have a means of getting them taken care of, I'm about a month away from getting them filled in. When my SO and I started our relationship last year, I never told him about my teeth. Then again, I was very accepting of them myself and albeit every now and then having the cavities bugged me, in my mind I always had the reassurance that I knew I would get them fixed some day in the future. So they didn't define me, nor subtract from my worth - in my eyes. He made the decision to buy the plane ticket and meet me and the entire time I never even thought that my teeth would be something important to preface his trip with, or to foreworn him. We met, his visit was perfect, we fell more in love and have had many many more visits since and not once did he ask me or point out my teeth. Now we're a couple and he's going through my journey of getting the word done on them, with me - together. I told him eventually that they definitely were my least favorite trait about myself, but it never bothered him whatsoever.

I just wanted to give you my story from the perspective of someone else in the same boat.

If it's a deal breaker for the other person, then you need to accept that it is probably a pretty shallow thing to be a deal breaker in the first place, because it's a trait about you that is not permanent, nor defining of your self and you worth and ability to love. You must find your confidence before you meet this girl. Let me tell you right now, it's not a matter of your appearance, but a matter of having an unapologetic relationship with your self that is the most valuable thing you have to offer her. I personally don't think you should 'preface' or 'forewarn' her about what you view as aesthetic flaws of yourself. Please try to accept them before you move any further. They are non-issues in the context of finding someone who loves you as well as finding someone worthy of your love.

p.s. I have stretch marks too. Everyone has some stretch marks. She probably does too. We all have our insecurities but they do not deserve your regard in this matter.

/r/LongDistance Thread