The more successful I get the worse it gets between my husband and I.

Trust me as a man I say we have lot of insecurities.and one big thing among them is woman cheating on men. In our country if woman earns more then she becomes more arrogant over time (your country may be different. I am only strictly talking about my country). Also men has a lot of pride which is the nature of us.you can ask any man.it is like our basic emotions. When woman start earning more automatically we think she will see us as worthless and might leave us one day if we don't try and please her hard enough. and as we try all our might and please her we become tierd of it and lose ourselves in that process. We also have a lot of pride that we never ask a woman to spend for us without us contributing equally and feel that it is the most hardest thing we could swallow. You can say all the things like you love us and it is a family but in the end our pride takes us. Whether you agree or not if you people are training kore than us then we think that we cant even argue with you for a small thing. And eventually if you do some mistakes then and we fight with you at some point even a little.....believe me even if you are in the wrong you guys will blame us and say you are the breadwinner and put a post in some social media asking if it was right and getting fake consolations even if some say it is wrong.it is because you also have some insecurities like us. After that fight we will obviously feel guilty and feel like we are the most shamefully creatures living in earth. to avoid all those problems either you have earn less or we have to earn more or both have to earn equally.first two are not possible.so we both have to earn equally so that you can't blame us when you are wrong and we can swallow our pride and live.

Finally :

Simply put

We men when become husbands always want our wife's to see us as heroes.and when it dose t happen all kinds of negativity happen.it is not narrcissm, it is just that we want to show ourselves as a great person infront of someone who we love with our heart.simple solution get divorce or earn equally. If left alone like this either of you will be pressurized and do some sily stuff which will eventually end in ending the relationship. Saying that they should keep some distance will make it worst.

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