Is moving out into your own place, on your own, lonely?

It can be, like with most things there are pros and cons to living alone, I lived in shared accommodation during most of uni and moved out to a flat after graduating as I didn't want to try and work from home in a shared house.

I'd say the biggest benefit to me is that there are no other people you have to try and make happy, and you can, within reason, do whatever you want. Housemates at Uni are often your friends, but you're kind of taking a gamble going into a shared house with strangers - they could be great and you could make very close friends, or they could hate you and you begin to feel more isolated than you would living alone.

But that can also be a downside. There's nobody around to keep you in check - I have on occasion let my flat become completely disgusting if I've been having a bad week, and in a shared house usually somebody would pick up on that. I have had a few days where I've felt lonely but I think that may be being exacerbated by the pandemic, and there not being many opportunities to meet different people. It's also obviously cheaper living with other people, most of the time bills and council tax are included, and some studio flats, particularly in London, can be as small as a bedroom, but a lot more expensive and with bills added on.

Ultimately, if you're thinking of doing it, best way forward would be to try and find a six-month let and see if you like doing it and like where you live, as it would be easier to change.

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