I do this! My bf is amazing at gently pointing it out though.

The other day I asked if he still wanted to watch this show we like that evening, because if so he'd need to stop gaming within 15 minutes, or it would get too late to start the episode. He agreed and set about wrapping up his game.

I went to the living room and started to get consumed with anxiety. Was I being controlling? Was I telling him what to do? Was I being demanding?

He came over to put on the show and I started to go "honey I didn't mean to demand that you stop, I wasn't trying to control what you were doing --" and he gently said "honey, honey, stop, breathe -- you weren't doing that at all. Did I say anything to indicate I felt you were doing that?" and I realized, no, he didn't! All he'd done was agree and turn off the game! He said "did you maybe think up, all in your head, this scenario where I got upset?" and I was surprised to realize, yep, that was all in my head! Felt very good to let that go.