I haven't had sex in over a year so can't speak to that. But I had sex fine before, even being asexual. I never really had dysphoria about using what I had or people touching it or any thing. Even before I started hrt, I was pretty okay with things though I never liked having breasts.

But since I starter hrt, I feel differently. In a way, I feel more connected to my body while also feeling more disconnect from it. I think I'm dissociating less; I spend less time "in my head." I also have a stronger sense of what my brain map thinks should and shouldn't be there. And I feel more distraught that things don't match. It is a weird affect I think of feeling hormonally better.

Even masturbation is more difficult. I just feel like I should be able to use my penis. I feel like I should be able to touch my chest and it be flat but neither of these things happen. They aren't possible but my brain says it is stronger than it used to. It is weird and very different from before where I could be okay imagining myself being enjoyed as female and be pretty fine with it. Now I cannot. Sometimes it works, but I always feel depressed after imagining myself that way.

I don't know any tips. I try my best to work around things, to use my imagination to pretend the feelings are coming from different parts and to manipulate that in my head to make me feel okay. But I'm sure it is a bit harder with a partner.

I just want you to know that a lot of what you said I felt like I could relate to though in a different way. I too was fine with my parts sexually until hrt and now feel very differently almost over night and I'm still trying to figure it out myself. Even though I'm just doing that alone.