A mutual acquaintance is in a relationship with a 22-year age gap. Everything appears to be going fine; but could something deeper (and darker) be going on here?

First of all, it does appear as though you read the entire post before saying all of this, and I will openly say and acknowledge that I honestly appreciate that. (It took an hour to write lol.) However, I’ve also gotta say that you sort of contradicted your entire point in that you’re calling me assumptious:

You know nothing about this guy, you're making wild assumptions based on nothing.

when it seems to me you’re considerably assumptious yourself:

Maybe get out more yourself.

Now, I’m not saying that I’m not making assumptions; I most certainly am! But I don’t want to base my opinion off of an assumption; my entire point in writing the post in the first place was so that I don’t have to assume what my gut wants me to, and maybe get some outsider opinions.

Otherwise, I’m sorry, but to assume I don’t get out more myself is a pretty bold comment to make at someone who spends the majority of their day out of the house (whether that’s for business or recreational purposes). It was around 2:00 AM when I wrote it, and for the record, I did not expect it to turn out as long as it was. (That usually happens with me, though. I guess I just typically have more to say than I expect most of the time.)

Regarding the rest of your comment, all I have left to say is—again, I actually appreciate your response and I am not trying to be all defensive or anything here in mine (despite how it may sound or come off). I think you made several valid points and I will take them all into consideration! But just to clarify, let me assure you that, I’m totally aware this whole situation is none of my business. When I was writing the post, I wasn’t exactly expecting a response which screams: “it’s none of your business”, simply because, well, I just thought an idea like that would’ve been common enough knowledge in that it could be assumed I already knew it wasn’t my business, if anything. What you assumed instead though, was that I need to get out more, whereas in reality, I was just bored at 2:00 AM whilst struggling to fall asleep (despite my efforts), and thought I would make a little write-up just to see what other people think about such a situation. (Although, I can see how the length of the post; along with me neglecting to specify somewhere in it that I already knew it wasn’t my business; might have been my mistake. So genuinely speaking, my bad on that one. Matter of fact, I might have even left out some details for the sake of brevity, believe it or not.) All-in-all though, I know I don’t know anyone, nor am I trying to assume anyone has bad intentions; I know I wouldn’t want someone to do that if it were me.

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