My 14 y/o pierced her own septum

Final actions are always left up to an individual. I’ve never said no I just said let’s wait until high school for that type of piercing. I feel disrespected because she disobeyed the rule set forth to wait, she lied about (upon other things), hid it from me, and tries to say things “I did it when I tried to pierce my nostril.” I ask her why she didn’t come forward and she says “you just asked about the nostril not a septum.” If I can’t trust her to do things like a simple “let’s wait until high school (she’s in 8th grade). Then I cannot trust her to be responsible away from me in vehicles or other things. I specifically have stated that I don’t tel her what to do I try and help guide.

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