A relationship with a person diagnosed with BPD will tend to follow a fairly standard path. Everyone here has seen it time and again. Read more about the disorder and see for yourself.

Most likely the reason that your bf doesn't seem like other BPD sufferers that you've read about is because you don't live with him. People with BPD tend to target the people who are closest to them.

Try answering these questions honestly...if as you say his jealousy and reactions are all you think about nowadays, how will it be when you're older, and the two of you live together? How will it be if you have a child with him? If you're already making adjustments to your behavior and who you choose to talk to, just to avoid his jealousy, how will that look in the future if you continue your relationship with him? What then happens to what YOU want? How much of yourself and your autonomy are you willing to give up for this person?

Going by what you said, he will get jealous if you talk to other people. Ok, so let's say you stop talking to other people (which is in and of itself pretty unhealthy). He will then find something else that triggers his jealousy...maybe he saw you looking out the corner of your eye at someone who walked past the two of you, then goes into a rage because he just knows you're trying to hook up with that other person. So then you stop wanting to go out anywhere with him, just to avoid the jealous outbursts. Then he'll get mad that you never go anywhere. See what I'm getting at? It will never be enough for him.

If he is unwilling to take care of himself in such a simple manner as taking an antidepressant, how do you think he will be able to manage the BPD?

I can guarantee that if you continue this relationship with him, it will only get worse, unless he gets the help he needs to learn how to manage this disorder.

I wish I had better news for you, but this is the reality of the disorder. You are young and have so much ahead of you...learn how to set and enforce healthy boundaries, and learn how to take care of yourself and be sure that YOUR needs are being met.