Hello. I just wanted to offer you encouragement and share my own experience. My mother and father were both devout Christians. I drifted away from religion but respected their intentions and traditions. My mother became ill with breast cancer and after a long battle passed away last year.

My situation differs from yours in that I do not have a younger brother to look after, and my mother accepted treatment from doctors. It was still the most difficult period of my life, so I sympathise with you greatly.

All I can offer is encouragement. Living in the family home while my mother declined was severely detrimental to my mental health. I eventually moved out and it saved my career (the stress from my personal life was absolutely impacting my professional). I still visited and supported them as i was able, but in hindsight it was a token effort and my poor father bore most of the burden.

After my mother passed I moved back in with my father as he was obviously lonely and I had promised my Mum that I would look after him after she was gone. I often wonder why I withdrew so much from her in such a difficult time. I was doing my best but in hindsight I think I could have done better, by just giving her more of my company.

Basically I'm saying, I think you're going through something incredibly tough personally, but your parents are experiencing this even more so. My advice, unsolicited as it is, is to put aside your difference in beliefs and give them the comfort simply by way of your company. Visit for dinner once a week, whatever, just show you're still around and care while they go through this difficult time. It won't last forever and when its over you won't want regrets.

Best wishes.