My [19 M] former friend [19 M] of four years is contacting my other friends and lying about me, and I am afraid he will contact my employer too.

I came home from work and my dog was limping/hiding upstairs. This friend has a history of hitting his own pets. I am unsure if he personally hit my dog, or if my dog (who has had back problems in the past) developed the problem on his own. He drew permanent offensive and racist imagery on my walls with marker, I responded by calling him a sociopath. This offended him and he 'snapped', he sat in my room in the dark, not responding to me. This behaviour frightened me and I stayed in another room near my sister's room with a knife in case he went further. I called my closest friend (Dave) and asked him for advice, he said to call the police. Dave then sent a warning to the police about this situation.

Afterwards, my friend and I talked the situation over, while I contacted Dave and told him not to contact the police again. This friend viewed the whole situation as 'a big joke' and a response to 'all this shit that was going on in his life'. He believes I overreacted by contacting Dave who contacted the police and made Dave think poorly of him.

In revenge, this friend contacted Dave, another friend, and I presume more friends and told them various stories about me having a delusion and making up the whole situation because of mental illness, me being on drugs, and me 'framing' him. Some of these friends believed him and told other friends his stories.

Before he left my house, I believe in a mixture of confusion and guilt he left an apology/confession letter, where he apologised for 'harassing' my dog, and being a poor friend. I have this letter stored and have photographs of it. I also have him through text message discussing the letter he wrote, so this is something he cannot deny.

This is what happened as objectively as I can tell it.

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