The problem wasn’t his feelings. It’s the way he chose to communicate them. To me that can be helped. All he has to do is calmly let me know what he needs from me instead of shifting blame in a blameless situation. It is controlling to shift blame before you’ve even given your SO an understanding of what you need. Had he told me prior that he’d like to be the one I go to for help in every possible situation, even though he’s made it clear that he doesn’t like to be woken up, then I’d get why he’d be annoyed by how I handled things last night. But he didn’t tell me that. And instead of talking to me about it after, he ignored me in a time when I actually did need him to be there for me.

I just don’t see what there is to be livid about all the way into the next day.