I respect your opinion and I understand where you are coming from, but I very much care about his situation. He talks to me about it comfortably and I have zero judgment. We are all good on the department of him being allowed to express and explore. That is not included in the post because I felt it's not relevant. He is comfortable and happy and feels safe, and I also happen to maybe be a little anxious which I think is fair. I do agree me being anxious about something like that is a bit selfish (regardless of his situation) and that is why I am here asking how I can express my feelings without causing him any harm. He has made it clear to me he is not transitioning as of now. I know what he is comfortable with. I help him when he decides he wants help talking through stuff. I dont want to he seen as if I dont care, because I very much do.