My (20F) little sister (12F) threatened by boyfriend (23M) with a handsaw

As a young teenage girl with an older sister i think i can give my take on why she’s acting this way pretty accurately. in all honesty, this is something along the line i would do at her age put in her situation. Now of course i wouldn’t set a house fire or grab a saw or anything but the overall attitude is relatable. I’m extremely close and protective of my older sister (16/19) She’s probably my favorite person in the world. the only thing that i think is different between our position and your position is that we don’t have nearly as big an age gap. I think you view her more as a child rather than a sister, sisters are best friends so when ‘babysitting’ you don’t usually act as a babysitter would. She wants a closer relationship with her siblings i think. in 6th grade i lost all of my friends. to say i was mentally unstable is an understatement. I contemplated suicide and would stay locked in my room for days and whenever i went out with my family i would cling for dear life to my sister (literally grab her arm/hand). She was my only friend. I take friendship seriously as in i wouldn’t consider someone a friend if i wouldn’t take my life for them (that says more about my self worth than loyalty). In middle school is when the marijuana trend started with the people i grew up with in school. One thing i noticed was that all of these blunt smokers were the absolute douchyiest and bitchiest fucking popular kids at school. I hated them, so i hated weed. Anyone who did weed in my mind meant that they do desperately wanted to be cool/edgy, which was a pathetic attempt. I went crazy trying to figure out if my older brother (+2) was a stoner. the two of us aren’t so close but i wish we were more friendly. If he was i would’ve hated him as i already hated his friends. My sister on the other hand was/is a perfect person in my eyes. as someone who has been called a loser (because i have 0 friends and i have low self esteem), my sister was everything i wished i was. She was not the stoner type, she drank at parties but not to the point where she was a drunk skank (she didn’t like the taste of alcohol), she was passionate about basketball and she had loads of friends. I always used to ask her if she loved me because i needed reassurance. I used to dread the day she got a boyfriend, but now i only hope she finds a guy worthy of her. If he was a pothead and came over to my house being all touchy with her no doubt i would make it clear that i don’t want him there. Plus if i found out my mom had a fucking bong i would be freaked out too.

just as a update on who i am now, the idea of smoking pot is fine by me but it’d still be weird if my parents did it. Hell, even i would try it. i’m not as crazy protective of my sister because she’s smart as hell and can take care of herself. whoever she dates would be fine by me but if i hear word of cheating or abuse you better believe crazy psycho sister is back. Im really proud of my sister and my brother. I think the fact that we had such a nice childhood made it hard to let go.

on top of everything that happened with me, your sister has to deal with more.

Solution: if you’re still seeing this guy, have him take your sister out. if he doesn’t care what she thinks i personally think he’s an ass. She just needs to get to know him better, she’s just scared to loose you to someone who comes across as a careless stoner

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