Okay so I spent the weekend having 8 of my friends over and we were doing a Harry Potter marathon. We were having a great time, drinking eating and doing magic shit. It was great.

My wife at the time had super anxiety ridden so she was having a rough weekend sadly. Too many people in the house made her nuts and she couldn't relax. She spent the whole time in our room watching other movies and I would occasionally stop in and give her some love to try to ease her into coming out with the rest of our friends. She never came out except to eat and then would scurry away. Saturday night she goes and stays with a mutual friend of ours to have a form of escape and play with his cat to help relax her.

I get a call from the friend late Saturday night/Sunday morning saying we needed to talk about my wife. He said she was acting weird and in a bad place (she fought anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, etc). I wanted to talk to her but she didn't want to talk to me or couldn't, it gets fuzzy. I was exhausted and at this point in our relationship I was getting frustrated with her constant episodes because she wasn't trying to get help and nothing I did was helpful enough.

Sunday rolls around and it's my birthday. We're finishing up the Harry Potter movies, my friends leave early afternoon. I'm texting my wife all day seeing when she's coming home and if she wants to grab some food. She comes home at like 8 or 9. Something is off, I can tell immediately. I start talking to her to see what's going on. She wishes me happy birthday and then says we need to talk. I already expect the worse but I'm holding my emotions back because I don't really want to assume anything. She tells me she has kissed and slept with our mutual friend (at the time this just meant cuddling and sleeping beside each other but it didn't really matter to me - still cheating and breaking of trust).

That birthday ruined the next few birthdays for me. I lost a friend (who was a shitty person) and a best friend (who I would have given my life for). We divorced later that year even after I tried fighting for her, but it was futile at that point, she had already made up her mind.

This year I had a great birthday though, I took off work, stayed home, played video games and watched the Incredibles. I'm taking my birthday back and making it a good day and so far it's working out.