My (21F) boyfriend (23M) didn’t do anything for our anniversary and I’m bummed.

I used to date a guy who would never really care about anniversaries or special events in our life together. I never said anything to him as I didn’t want him to feel like I was emotionally too much work. Our first year he did get me a little something, but our second year he didn’t get me anything, and was super casual about it. I got really upset at him and we spent a long time talking about it. He explained it’s not that he doesn’t care, he just didn’t know I wanted him to show it that much. It made me super mad as it seemed like he just didn’t care all that much, and then was doing everything just to keep on my level of caring. He definitely had a way lower emotional intelligence than I, and just needed to be reminded. Ultimately I ended up unhappy as we were on very emotionally different levels and we ended it soon after that. It may be useful to have a heart to heart with him and let him know that it makes you feel less valued sooner rather than later.

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