My(21M) fiance(20F) went through my phone, she wants to abort our pregnancy and break off the engagement

You should flip it on her and explain how upset it was to hear her exclude you, the father, her fiancé, out of this little family you guys are both trying to curate. She’s being selfish. It probably has a lot to do with her hormones, and it probably has a lot to do with you two being very very young. If you can get to a point where you talk this out, just explain how you’ve felt during this time and what you would like to see different. Ask her how you can help her throughout this pregnancy. Open ended questions work better than accusatory ones.

This is a tough situation and you learn the most from people when you have to see them navigate difficulties. She’s showing you in many ways shes not ready to be a wife or a mother. She’s using the baby inside her womb and wielding it like a weapon to leverage things, and this is just the beginning. It’s disgusting and childish and serves no interest for that poor baby waiting to come into the world. She made a baby with you, and now it’s her body her choice? It’s no longer your baby? Oooof OP listen to her when she’s telling you who she is.

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