My boyfriend smokes every. single. day. to cope with his depression and the terrible state the world is in. My boyfriend is a functioning smoker because he 1.) goes to work everyday 2.) splits all bills and rent 50/50 with me and 3.) always makes sure the bills are paid on time. Show your boyfriend this thread. Have him read your words and then the wise words of the people who have responded to your post. Is he depressed? It sounds like he might be, but he has to want to seek help, to get better, and tbh, you are enabling him and his habits. He knows that you are not going to let him starve or 'suffer' without his addiction, so he has continued on down this path. I'm not saying his choices are your fault, but I am saying that you definitely do not have to put up with this just because you love him/y'all have been together for a long time. Talk to him, tell him this is hurting you in so many ways, if he cannot see reason then please look inside yourself and ask yourself what you need to do for you. You've been doing what you can for him and bless you for that. Good luck, op.