My (22/F) friend/coworker of four years (35/F) just cancelled plans with me at the last minute and I know she's lying... I feel hollow inside. What do I do?

Whoa you are way over invested. Just because she's a good work buddy doesn't mean she's a friend outside the vacuum of work. It's possible she said yes to seeing the movie because she was making what I call optimist-plans. Those times you say to someone "we should totally hang out!" and a part of you (the optimist) means it because you know you'd enjoy it but realistically you know that hanging out with that person just isn't a priority because the rest of your life is and so it'll likely never happen. She's got a boyfriend she has children in and you're dropping $130 to go see a movie "with a friend" as if you're really going on a date with her without her knowledge. She very well could have been lying because she had no idea how to politely get out of a situation she wasn't comfortable with once you started pushing to make your plans a reality. It's also likely your thirst shows and she sensed your ulterior motives and didn't want any part of it. Either way, you're over invested and it would do you some good to get some perspective.

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