I think you need to take a step back for a minute. All of your comments and your post have pretty massive # of rationalizations. Hell, you say in one comment "they help me 99% because of friendship, 1% because they may see it as something more".

come on dude, who are you fooling? first off, if it's not 100% because of friendship, then it's a weird dynamic. secondly, how could anyone come up with #s like that? you can't make that guess as to how these folks are thinking at all - you can't read minds. so I'm guessing it's a bit more than that - these guys are dorky "nice guys", some of whom are helping you out because it's the only proper interaction they have with a woman.

I'm not saying they're bad people, but I can see why your boyfriend would be uneasy about you being around guys who at least subconsciously disrespect your relationship.

I personally wouldn't give a damn, I really don't have any jealousy and honestly my girlfriend would stop spending time people out who have crushes on her immediately (as would I). no "friendzoning" them and saying "lets be buddies", just "hey, I don't think we're on the same page, let's take some time apart and catch up when we're back on the same page." so we operate that way.

your boyfriend & you have different boundaries. he's not completely wrong - it's awkward to realize that your GF is hanging out / getting help from even a few of guys who have minor crushes on her.

but you're not wrong either - you are doing everything right in terms of being honest & frank with these guys about where you stand with them, and how you are happy in your relationship.

to summarize - you & your boyfriend should discuss what boundaries work for you two.