My (22F) boyfriend (25M) uses a mistake I made 3 years ago as leverage every time we argue

The issue with the incident was because you didn't actively pursure the matter as a form of sexual assault. Your boyfriend has probably got from your actions that you cheated. Trust is destroyed and the relationship ruined.

Thats when you should've ended it. I say this so much but to try and rebuild trust in a situation like that is nearly impossible. It takes a very very strong relationship to overcome somebody physically cheating in his mind.

I hate to tell you but he's not strong enough to forgive you. Its why he can't move on from it and he never will. He just simply doesn't trust you anymore its gone. Its why he's using it now etc.

Now no matter what happened. We dont know that's for you to know and it makes little difference in moving forward because you need to end this relationship! It will never be what you want it to be. Yes you made mistakes but its obvious he can't see past it but you can meet someone who will love you and treat you with respect now.

Its probably not what you want to hear but its the truth and its hard to face. You deserve respect and love, peace and to be happy... i don't think this relationship is giving you any of it.

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