My [23/F] bf [24/M] and I have been discussing a possible upcoming trip and it has made me a little worried about his money habits

Thanks for the feedback. I really doubt he's hiding his savings from me because he really doesn't have any reason to. I didn't disclose this above because it's not entirely relevant but his family is lower middle class while mine is pretty well off. He and I have been pretty open about finances and I've been open with him about the fact that I have a sizable inheritance set aside for me in the future.

The other thing that I didn't add is that I've only started working relatively recently (as in about 6 months ago) and I'm basically building my savings from scratch so I don't have a ton of extra cash right now.

I totally get what you mean about not being afraid to spend though. As I said in my post it's not really that I don't want to go at all, I'd just much rather postpone until next year when I'm a little more stable and wouldn't worry as much about it. I think if I was really set on it I could go but it would give me much more peace of mind if I could meet my current savings goals and have a plan set to save for next year.

I think I'm going to sit down and have a talk about budgeting in general with him and just compare how our finances and financial opinions line up. I have a budget tracking app that I use that I know he doesn't so maybe that will be a good, non-threatening conversation starter.

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