My [24M] roommate [23F] of 6 months has a very casual attitude towards nudity and it's starting to make me a little uncomfortable.

TL;DR similar situation, friend was acting really casual around my SO and I, found out that she was jealous / wanted to join and had to stop talking to her for a few years. Gave her another chance but she tried to sabotage my relationship so I ended up cutting her off for good. I was never living with her, but before I met my SO I was there 5-6 days out of the week. I assumed that she was just really comfortable in her own house, but she was lowkey bout the D.

I (m25) had a (F23)riend from highschool who was like this (lets call her katie), She came from a really sexually open family. I was admittedly friendzoned, but we were still cool for nearly 10 years. I would go swimming sometimes at katies condo pool and get changed in the same room, and I felt a little bit awkward, but didn't say anything. I always felt like she was baiting me to be creepy, like she wanted me to look. She had a boyfriend who was the complete opposite of me so I assumed that she didn't want anything to do with me sexually.

That is, until I actually got a girlfriend (f23) Then jealousy started to set in. She never approved of my girlfriend and would openly flirt with me when we were all together in a way that she normally wouldn't. I asked her about this and she said that she wanted a threesome but her SO wasn't co-operating; So she wanted to piggyback on my relationship. My girlfriend is the super jealous type and just mentioning that a girl said hi to me at work is reason for suspicion.

I told her that Tried to fuck her back in highschool, but after getting to know her I realized that even though she's "my type" physically, I've seen the men she goes for and the way she treats them (she also would take 1-2 showers a week and let her period freebleed while she was at home, would have unprotected casual sex while working in south america for weeks at a time while in multiple relationships); it's not a life for me. If she wants to be friends and smoke weed thats fine, but she had to accept that I have a girlfriend the same way that I had to accept that you had a boyfriend. I had essentially Friendzoned a girl who friendzoned me in highschool and she did not take to it well at all.

She basically called me an autistic loser with no sexual experience who has to scrape the bottom of the barrel to even get laid. I didn't take offense because I know she's projecting about her current SO (he (M31) watches MLP clop and collects nintendo games) and that none of it is true. we stopped talking for 2 years until we bumped into each other at a dispensary and she balled her eyes out about how she has no friends now and wants things to be like how they use to. I warned her that I'm still with my SO and that she has to deal with it or fuck off and she agreed.

So while I was sneaking around with Katie smoking weed and chilling, Both katie and my SO were under the impression that one was stealing me from the other. I'll admit that it wasn't sexual cheating, but it was definitely emotional. Katie was getting more and more hostile because "I hadn't broken up with this ugly ass bitch yet". She had to leave the country for work but we would still talk online and she mentioned that she's coming home for christmas and bought my SO and I something. She wanted to see us before the new year so I arranged a day where we would meet at a pub, exchange gifts, and talk things out and katie agreed.

I let my SO know about the plans and she was NOT having it. "Katie's a horrible person who doesn't deserve friends" "Katie won't even show up, she always flops for everything" "katies trying to steal you away from me" and all that. Hostility aside, my SO agreed to come last minute and we wait for katie. 2 hours after shes suppose to be there she sends me a text saying "I'm not gonna let you force me into hanging out with that stupid ass bitch! I never forced you to hang out with my stupid ass boyfriend" (not true)

So I called her on speakerphone with my SO and a couple mutual friends present and she fucking goes OFF about how stupid and ugly my GF is, how she'll be able to buy me things that she can't, and that she wants to take me to fucking south america on vacation because she planned on taking her own SO but he procrastinated on getting a passport so she dumped him. And now katie wants me to dump my SO in a public place because shes moving to south america in january and just all this crazy shit. Told her to miss me with all that bull shit and fuck right off. I trusted her to be a decent fucking person and give my SO a chance and she disrespected the courtesy and made me feel fucking stupid in public. Shortly before all of this happened, I quit my job and didn't tell her that I was looking for work so she assumed that I still worked there and showed up a couple times, called my old job looking for me, blew up my voicemail inbox, and sent me LODES of nudes talking about how much she misses me and wants me to call her.

Tell your SO about this before this "other girl" starts making up lies to break you up / have you all to herself. *

*your mileage may vary

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