My (25F) boyfriend (27M) is buying a house, and doesn’t want me to help with any of it.

Absolutely, and that was essentially what was discussed in the beginning. It’s difficult for me to navigate wanting to help as a friend, as I have been for so long, and realizing that dating him has altered my ability to do so without possible negative consequence.

As for the distance, we’ve touched on it, but he’d prefer we not concern ourselves unnecessarily until the time comes to address the logistics. I can appreciate that, because I’d rather not stew on it for the next few months, but it does have an open-endedness about it that is somewhat unnerving.

He’s stressed, and I don’t want to add onto it by pestering him (thus why I’m here) so I’ll likely not bring it up until the sale is finalized.

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