My [25F] dad [68M] left me his ocean front property when he passes away. My mum [67F] is saying I "disgraced" his memory because I put a gate up so [3M] wouldn't go near the ocean.

I mean, you could have just taught your kid how to swim. That would have been safer anyway in case he ever ends up on the other side of the gate. You can't gate off the entire beach; just your house's access to it.

In a few short years he's going to be old enough to not worry about, and will you take the fence down? I hope so. But you said you spent a ton of money to put it up, so maybe not. It probably is super ugly and blocks the view which is the point of the house, and does it ruin the neighbors' views too? Does it block public access to the beach??

But anyway, let this be a warning that your mom is super emotionally invested in the house and if and when you make any big changes like painting or remodeling she's probably going to freak. This is not a great situation to be in. The way to handle her is probably to just cater to her irrational emotions and baby her, but all the while still just doing whatever you want with the house.

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