My [25M] GF [23F] believes in supernatural things and for me its just complete BS. What to do?

I had a good friend from middle school who had a mother (Catholic) and a father (Pagan.) The dad was a Shaman, would go into the woods to commune with nature, and would leave magic crystals around the house. The mom believed in Christianity. Both loved one another and respected their differences. It was one of the most interesting families I have seen. But neither felt the other was stupid, they seemed to enjoy 'insight' through the eyes of their partner.

So if you can learn to love her, despite her strange beliefs, then the relationship will succeed. If you cannot, then you should likely reevaluate what makes this relationship worth having.

Some things to think about:

  • Do you want children?

If you want to have kids, will you be horrified if they are taught ghosts and goblins are real? Would you resent her for these beliefs when your children start spouting off her strange ideas?

  • Why is Christianity/belief in God any less horrifying than "can't put a human into a computer"?

I find this one interesting. Culturally, you said you grew up having god "shoved" down your throat. So you are used to the idea of a zombie savior rising from the dead, God in the clouds, Virgin Births. But to someone who was raised to believe the trees have souls, animals can be familiars, and other Pagan ideals Christianity would be so very strange. So while you are free to find your myths socially acceptable, I don't think you can judge her for having weird beliefs only if they are outside of Christianity. Either all her beliefs are strange or some of them are.

  • Do you need a mental equal?

One of the huge dealbreakers for me is people who do not believe gays deserve equal rights. I have broken up with guys for this. It was not a dealbreaker for a few friends of mine. So each person is allowed to decide what they can and cannot live with. It sounds like you think she is stupid/insane in some way, even if you are fond of her. I get the vibe you are treating it like a mental illness in a way, hiding it, not trying to alarm her, but secretly frowning about it. Which is fine, if you are happy like that.

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