My (25M) gf (26F) said she felt more strongly about her exes

Ok I would just say, based on what you’ve written about her background, i really think however much you like/love her you might want to think about whether she is actually good for you, my guess is you are a thoughtful intelligent rational but sensitive being, snd if so without over identifying, I understand that because I am too, & if so, you need to be careful, because our strength as people, snd it is strength to be sure, steady, kind, equitable, inherently moral and so forth, can mean we end up sort of making up for the lack thereof in other people, snd hence putting up with too much, because we are naturally their ‘rock’ if you understand me, but across time it can erase us as people, whereby we focus on trying to stabilise their instability even unconsciously because of our natural equilibrium, and it is not good for our welfare across time, if so it will wear you down. So I would suggest, if any of that rings true, you take your time & deeply really flip your thinking, & rather than focus on whether she wants you, whether she is the right person for an intimate partner in your life, she is actually eventually going to subtract from your life, your peace, your welfare or add to it.

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