My [26/f] boyfriend [32/m] keeps getting drinks with his female friend and I just found out she doesn't know I exist.

It wasn't a huge deal and I was only mildly uncomfortable about it (because he has cheated in a past relationship - not with me) but I never mentioned it to him

Okay, if you have an issue, not mentioning it to your boyfriend is a good way to make sure it doesn't get fixed before it becomes a bigger problem.

Boyfriend: Well... as my friend. Do you want me to introduce you as my girlfriend? I will do it if you think it's the right time

And you said "yes, I do", and everything was fine?

don't turn this around on me and make it seem like I'm forcing you to introduce me as your girlfriend.

I don't see how that statement helps solve any problems.

Boyfriend: If you want her to know you're my girlfriend, then come with me and we will tell her.

You do want that. That's literally the exact thing you want, and the best way forward in the situation you find yourself in is obviously to come with him and tell her.

Don't you realize what an awkward situation that would be for me?

  1. It wouldn't be that awkward.
  2. It just gets worse. Not being overly dramatic, but at some point you'll have to go through that...or you break up with your boyfriend. Right?

He keeps texting me "come over!" and jokes and stuff like it's hilarious and silly that I'm upset about this.

At this point, I don't see a way forward here. Yeah, it's weird your boyfriend never mentioned that he had a girlfriend to one of his friends, but YOU, not him, made this incredibly awkward. And I'm not sure it's recoverable any more. When you threw your tantrum and refused to go, he had a choice of supporting you or his friend; he chose his friend.

Am I overreacting or is this just really uncool of him and really bad relationship etiquette?

Eh. I'd say that there's plenty of blame to go around here; I can't believe you let this go for two years, then when you finally brought it up and asked to meet her you refused to go.

Last night my Boyfriend mentioned Lucy again and I casually told him I'd love to meet her.

Last night you said you wanted to meet her; today you refused. I just don't see how you can fix this.

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