My [27 F] boyfriend [28 M] spent over $500 on himself for Christmas, got me something less than $10

This all just sounds like a big miscommunication... communication is key and guys are dumb. (Not like literally) but women expect that all men casn read between the lines but quite frankly, through personal experience, you need to write it on poster board with a big black sharpie to get them to understand. From what little info I actually know about you two is that, he probably doesn't know that you're struggling so bad.

When my husband and I first got together at 19 he was already making 50k a year (Not bad for a 19 year old). I was working part time at a minimum wage job while also going to school full time. I was always pushed to be independent so it's like hardwired into me, work and pay for things yourself... don't end up dependant on anyone. I literally wouldn't take any hand outs from my boyfriend. After about 2 years we had a conversation and my husband got a little teary eyed and told me "jus t let me help you. Please" and from that point forward I started letting him have a little of the reigns. But the moral of the story: you have to open up the dialog and tell him what you think/expect. Id bet a large sum of money that he would be more than happy to help lift some financial burden.

I hate to say this but it seems like you grew up privileged? Although I admire your morals and standards and that you just don't assume that you're entitled to certain things with out hard work and trust. But I do see a little glimmer of entitlement. Not in a bad way, don't get me wrong. But at the end of the day, you guys have been together for 8 years. That speaks for something.

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