My (27/F) friend (32/M) friend of five years is suddenly claiming that he has feelings for me now that I’m dating one of his friends (28/M).

He wouldn’t tell you his demands/wishes based on those feelings. It’s a small thing but it’s significant.

To be fair he was really drunk when he sent those messages last night. His spelling was all over the place. And he did apologize for it in his first and only reply this morning.

It says to me that what he actually wants is simply for you to stop seeing his friend and maybe will look at a relationship with you

But I do agree with this. Why else would he have told me now that I’m seeing someone else? Even if it’s subconscious, part of him probably just doesn’t want to see me with someone else.

Tell. Your. Partner. Let him know it was addressed and dealt with.

We’ve only been dating for a couple of weeks. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that he’s my partner. But I do think he should know. I’m just worried that he won’t want to continue dating if he knows that a friend he’s had since high school apparently wants to be with me now.

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