This is a dealbreaker. She has rigid old school gender roles and you do not. She is looking for a provider, and you are looking for a partner.
"I think things can be split sometimes but you’re still the role of the man and bf and I always viewed myself as having a man who wouldn’t want me to pay for everything we do together. Even 50/50 splits are literally what friends do."
If somebody texted me that I would just text back, "LOL yeah I guess we do want different things. I guess we should break up, because really I am not interested in paying for your expenses as the cost of spending time with you. I was looking for more of an equal partnership, life partner type of thing. No hard feelings, hope you find what you're looking for."
To me, there is not even a discussion to be had. It's just done.