My (27m) GF (27f) has continuous trust issues

She doesn't need isolating hobbies, she needs ones that will get her out of the house. You two could join a co-ed sports team together. That's probably a decent place to meet other couples. Church if that's your thing (it's not mine, don't feel like I'm pushing an agenda). You can straight up ask a pastor or whoever you talk to if they can put you in touch with another couple to seek mentorship from. The importance of this is 1. the couple is neural so you both can take their advice without feeling like there's some alt motive and 2. the couple knows you both as a couple. They inherently are motivated to see you succeed as a couple. There is no "Bob" and "Justine" there's only "Bob and Justine" to them. Accountability is huge to your success as a couple because isolation is the breeding ground of abusive behaviors. Journaling is huge too. Surprise her with some journals (highly recommend turning her on to /r/bulletjournaling).

> I'm not sure how to go about talking to her about the things that bother me, because I'm afraid she will take offense in it, or be afraid that I'm planning to leave her. Of course I would try to assure her that I love her, but that she still has trouble believing that is in my opinion part of the problem.

I know it's intimidating to want to talk, but look at it this way: You want to talk because you care about the success of your relationship. I see a lot of my old self in your ex. I don't think she's blind to her bad behaviors and insecurities. In fact, she is probably concerned your silence is just resentment building up in you until you decide it's too much one day.

Another really important thing is to be mindful of the precedents you set in relationships. If there's a bad fight and she storms out and you chase after her, you're just rewarding that behavior. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and stick to them regardless of how hard it might be. Watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znFvQx9GRo0

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