My [28F] boyfriend [33] does not think it is ever his responsibility to make me happy when I'm upset, and I'm really struggling to figure out if I deserve better, or if he's got a point and I am being immature.

He may disagree with her reasoning which is 100% fine. Say she feels mad. She is mad because x. She tells him I’m mad because of x. He says he understands she is upset but x would not make him angry and he therefore does not agree with her reasoning for being mad. He is right that it isn’t his job to make her happy again and it would be difficult to empathize with her if he believes X holds no reason to be mad.

We have to admit that all feelings are not based on logic or sound reasoning and not all feelings should be affirmed. Just look at kids to see this point. Kids throw tantrums because the color of their cup is blue and they wanted the red one. Makes no real sense to be angry over that and most people can dismiss that kid as being immature and stupid. Same goes for adults and their feelings towards certai things.

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