From your other posts and edits and everything, I think you are almost making a tempest in a teapot. It's only the first week of planning this thing ... the important thing is to honor the relationship and each other as individuals. The wedding is just the wedding, but the marriage is a lifetime.

Here's what I propose: You should both bring in your best ideas for "dream wedding."

Hit all the highlights from wear, to venue, to size of party and number of guests, rings, invitations, where to register, reception, rehearsal, officient, etc. Make an elaborate dream board, write a bulleted list ... a pintrest page ... a collage ... a poem ... whatever gets your juices juiced.

Get creative and outline the look and feel of the wedding you want, colors, music, tone. Take some time ... like a couple or three weeks even, but do it before you get too deep into planning.

It sounds like he wants LOTR kitsch and you want something more traditional, but there is actually a lot of common ground there, and maybe as he keeps exploring, he will find other things that interest him too. Ideally this common ground will emerge even more clearly as you each presenting the other your dream ... challenge yourself to find things to get excited about with his presentation, and he should challenge himself to find things to get excited about with yours.

Don't listen to the people who say he's being unreasonable. This is setting up a power play that you don't want, certainly to start off the marriage. If he's unreasonable, so you don't have to compromise, then he could claim you are being unreasonable, and it's all a big, disgusting power play, which is the exact opposite of what you want. Don't give yourself or him permission not to compromise. Dig deeper for what you share instead.

(hint: that's a big part of what keeps marriages together)

What's the goal here? If it's to have the wedding that looks and feels exactly like your dream wedding or his ... or worse one simply not like his dream wedding, it's going to be a very bad experience.

The point is to celebrate your love together with friends and family, and create a space to share with them that will honor the path you have shared thus far, and will celebrate the future you and your groom will share together.

It's about love and togetherness ... fellowship and union. It's not the time to practice being resolute and unmoving (for either of you) ... it's almost never the time for that.