My [28m] boyfriend [27m] lies to his friends about how we met, and it makes me feel dirty and less than.

this is a self hate issue. lots of gay people are ashamed of things like this and it is 100% their own problem not yours. it also means you can't fix it for him. he's not even ready to see that he has these beliefs, which is why he claims he is not ashamed but shows he is ashamed by the fact that he lies about it. trying to talk to someone without insight into their issues is a waste of your time and you will become frustrated.

i know it's hard to deal with on your side but there's not much of a way to make him see it until he is ready to. it's good that you talked to him but all you can do is say your piece and hope he comes around. you'll have to decide if you want to continue to participate in the lie and how much it bothers you that he's ashamed of how he met you.

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