My [28M] Girlfriend [26F] of almost two years went on a terrible racist rant while drunk. I am completely shocked and disturbed by this and want to make her understand the gravity of those views.

Thank you. Maybe I'm just trying to explain it away due to my feelings for her but I've been spending the last week trying to understand why she said those things. She's always been a very vigilant and fearful person and I think her racism could easily be a manifestation of fear. The one thing she kept repeating that night which confused me was this accusation that all black people secretly hate whites. She said it over and over, even said that no matter how much I try speak out against racism they'd still hate me. This of course is ludicrous but if she took this premise as true then everything else she said would make sense. She's also said in the past that she doesn't like being hit on by guys at bars because she "knows" they just want to use her for sex, again a pretty bleak and fearful way to look at the world. So for her, not only did those two guys want to use her for sex but they also hated her. Again crazy, but for a very fearful person could easily explain her weird reaction. IDK I'm probably overthinking this to make my self feel better but perhaps her racism could just be a symptom of a deeper problem.

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