My(29 F) so(30 M) brushes his teeth every 2 days or so & doesn’t shower enough. How to fix this without coming off as a jerk.

We’ve been together for 2+ years at this point, I didn’t realize how much of an issue it was because he has really bad allergies that seem to cause mucus to hang out in his throat that tends to smell, I don’t really know what that’s all about I’m just guessing at this point but I did mention him saying something to a doctor because even after he brushed and gargles it’s still there. So it took me a while to realize sometimes he’s not even cleaning his mouth at all. I love him to pieces and hate to think of him as a slob. I’ts the stubborn refusal to fix the issue when I talk to him about it that feels like disrespect, I don’t want to seem dramatic but I felt hurt tonight when I tried to invite him to clean up with me and he acted like it didn’t matter to him. I’m hoping to resolve the issue because other than this elephant in the room he’s practically perfect in my eyes.

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