Thank you - this is totally the approach I'm taking.

I think because he is using cultural differences for the reason for his expectations on the speed of this relationship, I just feel so... uneducated. I'm trying to understand whether there is truth in this. Not so that I can be like "oh okay, this is totally fine" but so that I can better guide her and support her. I'm obviously hoping that this is a lie, because that makes my response to her so much cleaner. But if not... and she is insistent on continuing this relationship, I need to know what to expect and how to help her navigate his expectations whilst also protecting her interests.

I'm going to see her therapist with her next week. Thankfully, she is home with the flu at the moment, so I know no quick decisions will be made. I am glad that she has at least recognised the abnormality in his expectations and sought advice from me - that would not have happened two years ago.