Found my wife texting a coworker, flirting a little here and there. Checked her Facebook searches and saw that almost every day she would type his name in and see what he was up too. I confronted her one day when a fight had broken out. She says that she didn't have anyone to talk to and liked the attention she got from him. I broke down and cursed her out, accused her of cheating and sleeping with him. She denied it, but who knows. Shit happens some times, I hope she didn't but she surely could have as them being coworkers. After I got over it, we became closer and now communicate more. I almost wanted to get divorced. Probably would have if I knew she had slept with him or if she told me she did. I would have an open marriage if she agreed. I would rather us both be happy and stay together, than divorce and split up our kids. What I've read from r/swingers from one couple, is that if you make a group conversation with all persons, so flirting and hook-ups are all known by each person it makes for a better relationship with your s.o. I believe that if my wife were open and showed me text to other guys, shared her wants and needs, we would be happier. Being together gets old some times. We all love new exciting relationships, heart beating attention from someone you've never touched before. I'm fine being with her and only her, but sometimes I know I and her would want to be with someone new. It's adrenaline and love that keeps us all going. Maybe discuss an open marriage, or if that's not something you would want think about getting a divorce. Set boundaries if you do decide to have an open marriage. Sex, or no sex. Just friends who makeout, oral sex. Condom's , STD test, no one night stands, be sane, be safe. I'd have a side relationship sort of deal, but I would make sure that the other is not sleeping around without using protection.