My [30F] husband [30 M] wants to move to Texas but I do not. What to do?

You said:

I've been trying. I think he thinks if he leaves to go down there and realizes I won't be moving to be with him, he can just come back up and I'll be greeting him with open arms. Like no. You made a choice to leave our home and our marriage.

You are also being very hypocritical here. Notice how you are not realising that it's not everyday someone gets offered double their current pay, and most-likely your cost of living would be halved: there are no state income taxes in Texas, the cost of food and gas is a lot lower, etc. I moved to California from Texas so I am painfully aware that even though my salary jumped 1.5x during the move my take home pay was worse for the first year after I moved.

You are being hypocritical because you are not considering the fact that if your husband passes up this offer, he might never forgive you, and your marriage is doomed anyway.

We'll be living outside of a major city technically. So rural but we commute (if we end up moving there). I don't know if this will make a difference in the fact we won't be living within the city.

It's interesting how you keep avoiding mentioning the name of the city. As others have already said, Austin is an extremely liberal enclave of Texas. Unlike you I actually lived there before judging it. I will happily retire there, and right now I live in liberal heaven San Francisco.

I believe your marriage is doomed anyway, so you might as well divorce him and let him follow his dream. It would be much, much worse if he doesn't go and you end up divorcing the broken shell of a man he will be several years from now when all he has is his hatred of you for standing in his way.

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