You have mismatched libidos, and it eats him up inside. He is probably sexually frustrated, doesn’t understand how to or if he can get you in the mood. He probably feels trapped in your relationship, at least sexually, which poisons the rest of it.

Just saying this because im in his situation. I try not to grope my wife though I can’t say I’ve never done it. I get to have sex quarterly with my wife if I’m lucky. She’s LL and never has any expressed any desire to be sexy or feel sexy.

I do the cold shoulder thing to. Unfortunately I know it doesn’t work, but the reality of the situation is that for me and your husband... we’re out of answers.

Sexual incompatibility is sexual incompatibility.