My[31f] husband's[33m] boss[45m] is obsessed with me

Tell your husband. For no other reason than you are a team and need to face something like this together.

For the boss I would suggest a a couple of things

  • Block him on any and all social media. If he mentions this to your husband, explain that you have been receiving some very weird messages and have locked down for 'a while'.

  • Block his phone number. If he mentions this to your husband, explain that you have been having 'service problems' and leave it at that.

  • Next advice depends on being in the US or not. In the US, get yourself down to the gun range. Start learning how to use a firearm for personal defense. Your husband can jokingly bring up your new wild west hobby, joke about you building an armory. Not in the US, get yourself down to a self-defense course or contact combat sport. Great for fitness, great for confidence, great for kicking the ass of creepy wee office goblins who visit unannounced and uninvited.

  • Harden your home security. External camera kits are cheap, good locks and bolts are excellent piece of mind. A dog can be useful but it is a big undertaking.

Some posters will, I have no doubt, suggest confrontation. However, at the moment, that isn't necessary. Couple of warning shots and see how it goes.

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