Yeah. I will definitely take a lot more time next time around. In my defense (lol) the engagement portion was between the two of us- we hadn’t told the kids. It was going to be a long time before we moved in or got married- probably a few years.
And since I’d been married before I know what qualities in a person are important for me. I wouldn’t have gone for just anyone. OTHER than the giant problem that he apparently doesn’t like my kid and didn’t handle that well by any stretch of the imagination- our relationship was everything I could ask for.
Clearly I made a huge error in judgement. There’s no denying that. I was wrong. But just wanted to defend myself a little and say I’m otherwise totally normal and level headed and wasn’t just willy nilly making rash decisions left and right.