My(33F) Husband(33M) has been confiding in a (gourgeousss) co worker of his about our personal marriage issues and has revealed to her things about me that are extremely private.

Short and simply, communication is the best way to start. You both have things about each other that you don’t like but beginning an open dialog where you can approach one another when a particular behavior is bothering you, or you’re just feeling upset in general, would be healthy. Of course, however, relationships are never simple. It’s quite possible he’s upset over something more than your mental health. From where I’m standing it sounds like you do a magnificent job taking care of yourself. I hope he spends at least some time commending you for that, especially because you’re working so hard to put your family first. I’m someone who also has multiple mental illnesses and I am blown away by how amazing you are. Something that’s really bothersome to me though is that he wants you to change the way you dress and act. It’s never healthy when a partner tells you they want you to fundamentally change. The way we act and dress are how we express ourselves comfortably. Another thing I don’t like is the threatening of divorce 5-6 times this year. One of the rules in marriage is never say the “D” word unless you mean it!! And I’m by no means saying he means it.

TBH my biggest concern would be him using your mental illnesses as an excuse for an underlying issue he may have with himself or something else, and if that’s the case that would just be cruel. But there’s only one way to find out and that’s by having a calm conversation where you both lay all your feelings out on the table.

I send nothing but good vibes your way. xx

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