My [33M] wife [32F] of 13 years broke up a marriage

I knew he was helping her with the career thing (and in fact he turned out to be hugely helpful) so I didn't want to cut that off as helping her with that meant more money and stability for our family. She is the breadwinner, so with her advancing we all benefit a lot. I did look through their conversations after I found her initial texts and they were only Q&As about job stuff (though of course she could have deleted texts). She was also really convincing that she didn't mean what she said. I saw how drunk she was, so that part was true. She and I had just gotten in a fight and he was helping her. She swore up and down that she didn't mean it and I guess I believed her. I'm really not sure to believe now.

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