Assume makes an ass out of u and me. I feel like when once you're in a marriage communication about just about everything in your daily life is something to be talked about. There is nothing that is unimportant anymore. What you deem isn't important may actually be very important to your wife. Maybe you had a bagel in the morning and you feel like that's dumb to talk about but your wife might connect with you through talking about nothing she might ask what kind of bagel was it did you put cream cheese on it how much did it cost meanwhile you're sitting there thinking wtf is so important about this bagel but you fail to see the connection she is forming with your experience that you deemed mundane. Similarly you love fishing but your wife might abhor it and think it's a waste of time but if she sits there and listens to you talking about fishing or sits in the boat with you for hours that's an experience that you now feel connected to her in whereas she is like wtf am I doing listening to him talk about the fish he caught and let go why didn't he bring it home so I could prepare something tasty but it could mean the world to you for her to sit there listening about it. Just in the future don't be quick to deem things unimportant. Just openly share anything you want I mean she is your wife she is supposed to be your best friend and confidant who you should be sharing everything with right? I mean even something as mundane as a bagel :)

To be honest I don't know if I can assign any blame to any party. No one is wrong but no one is right. The important thing to look at is do you want to be right or do you want to win your wife? If you wanna be right then keep arguing on here with the people telling you you're wrong. If you want to win your wife over stop deflecting all the blame and just accept this is a boundary your wife had that you didn't know about and proceed to communicate that to your wife. Let her know you don't care about Alice at all and that she is the single most important person in your life but that you guys need to have a discussion on what boundaries both of you have. Then listen to her talk about what she felt about the situation and what her boundaries are. You don't need to convince her you did nothing wrong but you do need to learn about what your wife is comfortable with. Then after she is done you can say what you are comfortable with and why that made you think there was nothing wrong with what you did but that you definitely empathize with her boundaries and will work to remember it as well as to continually check in with her. To be honest she should cool down in a couple days so have that conversation then but for now just be a good husband to her and love her as best as you can until she it feels right to talk. Play it by ear and good luck