I almost stopped reading after you said a 19 yo girl is not an adult. Yes, a 19 yo is an adult. This gatekeeping is absolutely ridiculous. Everyone older thinks everyone younger isn’t a “real” adult. And everyone thinks they were dumb when they were younger. It doesn’t matter. She’s an adult, fully capable of making her own decisions and living with the consequences. You know, like every other adult ever?
Secondly, this has been all her so far. I was with her parents, and she was home for the weekend from college. I said hi to her, then went out with her parents. I later received a friend request from her on FB. After accepting, she started messaging me. It was just small talk at first, but over the coming days, it was clear why she friended me. Everything, including the conversation, came out of the blue to me. It has been completely her so far up to this point. That leads to right now.
But yes, I’m such a creepy predator. /s