My [36F] Husband [38M] is calling me names and escalating the yelling.

If you’ve been married for nine years and this is recent, then he needs to see a counselor because that kind of abuse (and it is verbal abuse) could be a sign of a nervous breakdown. All the people in here telling you to divorce him are jumping the gun, but you should definitely insist on separating until he goes to counseling and gets himself straightened out.

People who keep telling her to get a divorce, real abusers don’t suddenly start abusing their spouses after nine years of marriage. This is a sign that something is actually wrong with him that may not be an intractable personality flaw. If he couldn’t change it would be nine straight years of abuse, not a sudden onslaught. He’s going through some kind of mental distress and yes, she needs to protect herself and her child (because someone having a breakdown can be very dangerous).

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