My (40F) friends (30sM/F) want me to get over my cheating ex (38M) because he's their friend and it's been two years. Am I being unreasonable?

"People aren't obligated to like you" this. 100 times this. I had to save this comment to remind myself of exactly that. I think maybe OP was hoping for a "chose sides" kinda deal, but that isn't how it works irl. Relationships are complicated. And what her ex did was shitty, but she needs to get help to be able to move past that now and move past the fixation on his new fiance and how happy they are. Go get happy yourself instead of the bitterness about their happiness. I get it, it can't have been easy, and it sucks that you are always reminded of them. But if you go and get busy in your own life why does it matter what they do?

Don't cut yourself out of the child's life but don't by any means expect them to cut ex+fiance out either.

Get yourself to therapy girl, get this out of your system. Stop following your ex on social, find some other way to occupy your space and just allow them to be.

You've spent the last two years fixated on them and what has it done for you? Literally nothing.

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